Tips for friending

Just wanted to share a few awesome networking tips I learned from my leaders. They really work, because they take the know like trust time frame to a minimum.

1. Use the FB birthday list to find new people to friend. These people will see that you have a common friend, so they won’t be so resistant to you contacting them.

2. Friend 10-20 new people per day. When they accept your request, immediately send them a message simply introducing yourself and complimenting something that stood out to you from their profile. Don’t mention your products or company for a few days, unless they ask and you get into the “what do you do?” conversation.

3. Go through your friends’ posts each day and choose 10 different ones to offer genuine comments on, not just likes and reactions.

4. Go through your friends list occasionally and weed out the inactive or nonresponsive ones. FB only allows us so many friends. You don’t want to waste those spots.

5. For this same reason, limit which people you “friend” who are in your NWM company. You can follow them instead.

6. Make sure you have great content posted on your timeline when you contact these people, content that will draw them to you.

Hope this helps someone build their business this week. 🙂

Happy networking!


I’ve worked with thousands of clients who have completely changed their lives by simply adjusting the way they approach their goal setting with massive action.

Consistently taking action to complete your most important tasks is crucial to making progress and getting closer to where you want to be in life.

It sounds simple enough, but this is where most people struggle. They start off strong but end up losing focus and become inconsistent.

So how do you make sure that you’re consistently taking massive action and making progress?

The answer…

Through accountability and sharing your goals selectively.

Bringing us to the next step in making 2018 your breakthrough year.

How You Can Guarantee That You Consistently Make Progress & Never Get Stuck

This is one of the most important things you MUST do in order to achieve your goals and have ultimate success this year.

When we are being held accountable by another person, we’re more likely to follow-through. You may have seen this before in your own life, whether it be on a work project, with your family, a personal trainer, private lessons (and so on.)

Life is crazy and can get in the way of our bigger aspirations all the time. We can’t even begin to predict all of the things that could throw us off course. This is why working with someone who can hold you accountable for your actions and goals can keep you sticking to the task at end, no matter what life throw at you.

When you are left on our own, trying to do everything by yourself, it is easy to make excuses and skip out on the daily rituals that are leading to your success.

If we tell ourselves “NO” once, it becomes easier and easier to say “NO” again…

Without even realizing it, we end up rewiring our brains to procrastinate and make excuses. We lose focus, lack concentration, get distracted and lose sight of what’s truly important…

Creating an endless negative spiral that leaves us trapped and stuck.

Accountability prevents that negative spiral from getting out of control. This even goes beyond just counting on one person. The most success I’ve seen, is when someone has a community of shared goals that can help motivate each other.

This is prominent in group workouts, group therapy, social, political, and religious groups, sports teams, and more. It has been a proven method for success for generations, which is why finding a group that shares a mindset in achieving goals and success is ultimately important.

Even disciplined people like myself use this method to get ahead in life. It’s one of the reasons I founded Asian Efficiency to begin with. I wanted to have a team that was as passionate about productivity and self-improvement as I was.

Bottom Line: Don’t Go At It Alone.

Find someone you trust that will help keep you accountable.

No, you don’t have to have your own team to work on your projects. You don’t even need to find someone who wants the exact same goals that you want. The important thing is that you find mentorship, relationships, and a community that will help you succeed based on their own motivations and experience.

Actually Being Productive

These are all simple but proven techniques that you can apply immediately.

Simply by learning these next steps, you’re going to overcome the roadblocks that have been preventing you from accomplishing your goals and get to where you want to be, fast.

That is how powerful these next steps can be. If you implement these strategies and tactics, you’ll become much better at executing and completing the actions that will take you closer to achieving your goals.

Are you ready to get started? Let’s dive in.

When it comes to achieving goals, most people believe they need to make big changes to make progress and get results. They start making huge drastic changes and overhauling their entire life.

If this sounds a lot like you, don’t worry, I used to be like this too…

Every year I would set high goals for myself, and I would always tell myself that this year wouldn’t be like the last.

I would always start off strong and try to make severe changes in my life and how I do things. Of course, I made some progress, but every year I would always end up falling short.

For 3.5 years I struggled to try to accomplish all the goals I would set for myself. What was frustrating me the most was that I knew I could accomplish them. However, the process that I was trying to achieve them by, making these big changes and revamping my life, only made me fail over an extended period of time.

Failing to achieve my goals drained me emotionally. This actually had a huge negative impact on my self-confidence and my motivation.

I would start out setting SMART goals (specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and time-bound) and make the big changes that I thought I needed to. But obviously, something wasn’t working.

So what was the disconnect?

Why was it that even though I set SMART goals and made the big changes I still couldn’t reach my goals?

It turns out that trying to make big changes is one of the most common barriers to accomplishing your goals.

Trying to make big changes is like trying to run before you know how to walk!

Haven’t you wondered why so many people can’t keep their fitness and health goals? They start off by making drastic life changes like going on an extreme diet or exercising every morning. Changes that they can’t stick to.

So if making big changes doesn’t work, what is the answer?

The first and most important key to accomplishing your goals is to consistently take massive action on small tasks and making small changes towards the direction of your bigger goal.

“The majority of what you want will come from a minority of what you do.” – from the book, The ONE Thing.

Success comes down to consistently focusing on completing the small actions that matter. So, it’s not about the BIG changes that will expedite your success…it’s consistently taking massive action on the smaller goals and rituals you set for yourself.

The thing that you have to keep in mind with this is consistency.

You want to get into a new habit, but you don’t want to overhaul your entire life. You want to consistently take massive action on the smaller tasks that will feed into your bigger goal.

Some of the readers here want to start their own business, others want to write a book, some of you may just want to free up more personal time in your life.

No matter what the end result is that you want to achieve, this principle can be applied. You can start by writing down your ultimate goal and then make a list of all the action steps that you need to take in order for that goal to manifest.

After you do this, you will be able to clearly see the smaller action steps that will lead to your ultimate success.

These are the steps that you want to consistently take massive action on

The art of friendship as a leader

It’s a good thing Sun Tzu never invaded Scotland. He would have made a great golfer. But that’s not important right now. What’s important is one of the strategies Sun Tzu has been credited with memorializing in the book The Art of War.

“To know your Enemy, you must become your Enemy.”

Before you get going too far down the road on some military metaphor, stop. This isn’t about war or The Art of War. It’s about the most opposite you can get. It’s about friendship. The objective may be different, but the strategy is the same. For example, to best become your enemy requires you to fully empathize with him.

In this matter, Sun Tzu is often interpreted as saying one must walk in the enemy’s shoes. In doing so, one knows the feelings, the motivations, and the intents of the opponent. The mysterious and often intimidating unknown represented by any foe instantly dissolves when you become that rival. Indeed, Sun Tzu says, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.”

Being the kind of friend people admire, ironically, requires the same empathy that wins battles. We need to understand everything about them in order to serve their best interests. That means we must empathize with them. What’s the optimal method for achieving this? Picture yourself in your client’s shoes. If you’re talking to a retirement saver, think about how you save for retirement. You’d be surprised how your own concerns can align with retirement savers and plan sponsors.

Sounds easy, right? Alas, a 2013 study conducted by the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences suggests it isn’t, and even more for highly successful financial professionals. This research concluded the more comfortable your position, the more difficult it is to empathize. (You might get a kick out of how they proved this. Researchers gave half their subjects a picture of maggots and put slime on their hands, while the other half saw a photo of a puppy and felt soft fur.)

Why is empathy so difficult for the advisers people have the greatest attraction to? People tend to gravitate towards people who they want to emulate. They’re not looking for empathy, they’re looking for a role model. And those role models tend to be quite successful; hence, quite comfortable. In other words, these “role models” are less likely to find their way to empathize.

It therefore becomes a trade-off: Do you want to attract people by becoming a role model, or do you want to create solid relationships by showing empathy? Sylvia Morelli, a Postdoctoral Fellow at Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab at Stanford University, says, “Behavioral research has demonstrated that feeling understood by others enhances social closeness and intimacy, as well as subjective well-being.”

When it comes to empathy, we can listen to Sun Tzu and “become your enemy” or, if we prefer a less martial alternative, those eternal words of Ty Webb: “I’m going to give you a little advice. There’s a force in the universe that makes things happen. And all you have to do is get in touch with it, stop thinking, let things happen, and be the ball.”

For those who don’t remember, Ty Webb was Chevy Chase’s character in Caddyshack.

And that’s why Sun Tzu would have been a champion at golf.



This is inspired by the author Dusan Djukich. One of my online mentors shared this chapter below ⬇️⬇️ that KICKED me into gear. Resulted in me making profits in my business.

“How to” vs “Choose to”🤔

I was on the verge of launching my coaching. My online 📲 mentor shared with me some things I needed to do. My response was “How do I get new people?” 🤷🏾‍♀️At the time I felt like I was speaking to the same audience. Everyone was in the same groups and communities, or so it seemed… So my mentor sent a few pages from this chapter 📚and I did a complete U-TURN and went into action

Hope this can help someone who may be feeling stuck .. Below 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾are some key points from the chapter

👉🏾 A MINDSET shift is necessary. Move from “Knowing” how to do something to “choosing” to do it.

👉🏾 Oftentimes we get STUCK because we obsess over the belief that we need to “Know something before taking action” What ultimately happens is we stay inactive. We sign up for numerous trainings, webinars, courses trying to find the magic sauce to success. There is no magic sauce. We simply need to “Choose to do the work” 😮

💁🏾‍♀️ I would like to reach out and connect with people and let them know about my products, service, or business BUT …I don’t know who to call 📞😳

💁🏾‍♀️ This problem comes in the form of ..

“I don’t know how to do this”
“I don’t know what to do”
“I want to do this but I don’t know how”

Sound familiar? 🤦🏽‍♀️

Dusan shared 3 ways this dysfunction shows up

1️⃣ I don’t know how to

2️⃣ I don’t know what to

3️⃣ I don’t know who to

💁🏾‍♀️Can we get 💯 REAL TALK here?

In this day and age absolutely no one can use the excuse of “I don’t know how” 😳

Hop over to GOOGLE and type in “How to ________” fill in the blank. Tons of information on what you need to demonstrate the “HOW” is available to you for 🆓 say “ouch” or “Amen” #RealTalk 🔥🔥

💁🏾‍♀️ This point resonated deep with me “The How to” is never missing. The “CHOOSE to” is 🤔

👉🏾The issue is not that we don’t know how to. The issue is we choose not to 😱

💁🏾‍♀️🔥🔥🔥Bottom line my friends. We do know how to get our results. We simply are choosing not to.

🙋🏾‍♀️This blew me away and was what I needed to get into action 🏃🏾‍♀️💨💨and created some results for myself 🏆

We know the “How” let’s focus on “Choosing to do” 😉

Hope that can help someone that has been feeling like your spinning your wheels

What have you been putting off because you feel like you “Don’t know how to” or you “don’t know who to”?

One question asked in this chapter. If someone offered to give you 1️⃣ million dollars in 24 hours if you got a list of 20 quality people to call 📞 do you think you could come up with a list of people? The answer was always yes

Let’s make the CHOICE and create the results we want by taking action 👊🏾👊🏾🔥🔥

How to crush it in LIVE videos! 👊🏼👊🏼

8 months ago, doing a live video was the furthest thing from my mind. I knew nothing about it, I had no interest in it, and saw no value in it…. UNTIL I was told that it is a powerful tool for growing your online business! 🗣👂🏼

Here are some tips that I have learned:

Many people tell me they don’t go LIVE because they are bad at it … guess what?! We were all bad at it when we started! I can assure you, you’ll never get better unless you start! ( 🤔The first time you sat down at the piano did you sound like Beethoven?! 🤔)

Facebook loves LIVE videos – they want to be the number one platform and plan to launch Facebook TV In the near future! If you didn’t know, everything you post does not reach the newsfeed of all your friends … but when you go LIVE you have the greatest reach available.

The best things in life are on the other side of your fears and comfort zones. The first time I went sky diving, I was terrified… yet it ended up being one of the most exhilarating things I’ve ever done!! Don’t let your fears hold you back from achieving greatness and living life to the fullest.

Choose to do personal development every day. Keep a notes tab in your phone on one takeaway from your daily personal development. I have a running list in my phone that I add to every single day… and that is how I never run out of topics to go LIVE on! This allows me to scroll through my list and choose what I feel like sharing on that day.

Watch other people who go LIVE — learn from them. If you see someone has incredible engagement, comments, and shares… what are they doing right? Learn from their methods and test it out for yourself.

LIVE videos can be a gateway to making money IF you use it correctly. If you go live advertising all your products, your company, and sales… you may drive people away. Instead, add value, educate, and Inform on topics that you are passionate about. Within doing that, you can add subtle plugs that open up an opportunity to follow up and engage on messenger. (Example: “If you want to know more, drop a 1 in the comments”)

Hope these tips were valuable and help you take your videos to the next level.

How are you going to handle 2018?

“The Carpenter”

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.”

What a shock!

What a shame!

If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort. Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized that we would have done it differently.

Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.” Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today. (Author Unknown)

Simon Sinek Interview

If you don’t know him, he is a thought leader. He is changing the way people do business. A lot of his stuff is on YouTube, but choppy. This robbins crew interview was well done. I don’t want to lose it, so I am linking to it here. I hope you take the time to listen. It could change your mind to what could be, instead of how it is being done.

Be the last to speak

Make Money Nudging Others

Here’s an idea for a service business – get people to pay you to bug them. Seriously.
People know they should eat well, they should exercise, they should put in extra time on their business, they should save more, etc. But without someone there to poke, prod and nudge them to do these things, they often don’t get done.
Imagine offering a coaching service in which you hold people accountable. You talk to them, find out what they want to accomplish, set up goals and timetables and schedules with them, and then check in with them to see if they’re meeting those goals. If they are, you pat them on the back. If they’re not, you get on their case.

You’re the person with the carrots and the sticks. You’ve worked out ahead of time what they get when they meet goals and what happens when they don’t. You (nicely) apply pressure when it’s needed. You give them a pep talk or sound off like a drill sergeant, depending on what motivates them. Most times all you’ll need is to express your disappointment. If they like you, they won’t want to disappoint you again.
Imagine the difference you could make in other people’s lives by offering this coaching service. And because you can only take on a certain number of clients in order to offer each one personal service, you’ll want to charge good fees for your time.